Building Relationships - I
Issue #44 - Live Harmoniously with Others
Hi Seamless Life Triber,
Here are 3 seamless life pillars for this week: 1 letter for you, 1 thing to ponder, and 1 offer to consider this week.
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Welcome to our new series on - Building Relationships
There is a popular thing we do as humans.
We inherit the wars of our parents, friends, and even partners.
We hate who our mum hates, and continue the thread.
More like a Marvel Movie.
This is not the focus of today’s letter.
Anyone who aspires to success in life must recognize the causes of failure.
Because, how else can we avoid the pitfalls if we don’t know the causes?
This is why the core quote or principle of the Seamless Life Tribe is:
“Seamless Life is not the absence of struggles; it’s equipping yourself for the day they come.”
In equipping yourself, you must first know your obstacle.
In a research into human relations, they found at least thirty major causes of failure.
The granddaddy of them all is the lack of ability to get along harmoniously with others.
A great businessman—one of the wealthiest men of his day—once said he had a five-point measuring stick he used in choosing people for advancement to high executive jobs. The five points are:
Faculty for getting along with others
Loyalty to those to whom loyalty is due
Dependability under all circumstances
Patience in all situations
Ability to do a given job well
Notably, job ability came last. That’s because the more ability one has for a task, the more objectionable one may be if lacking the other four traits.
Andrew Carnegie promoted Charles M. Schwab from a day laborer to a $75,000-a-year job—which was a fortune in those days. But Schwab also got a bonus that sometimes reached one million dollars a year. Carnegie said the salary was for the actual service Schwab rendered, while the bonus was for what he inspired others to do.
Your ability to inspire others is a blank check on the bank of life that you can fill in for whatever you desire. If you lack this ability, you can take steps to acquire it.
Here are some rules to adopt and follow:
Go out of your way to speak a kind word or render some useful service where it is not expected.
Modify your voice to convey a feeling of warmth and friendship to those you address.
Direct your conversation to subjects of greatest interest to your listeners. Talk “with” them rather than “to” them. Consider the people with whom you’re conversing as the most interesting in the world, at least at that moment.
Soften your expression frequently with a smile as you speak.
Never, under any circumstances, use profanity or obscenity.
Keep your religious and political views to yourself except there is an obvious opening.
Never ask a favour of anyone you haven’t yourself helped at some time.
Be a good listener. Inspire others to speak freely.
Remember that an ounce of optimism is worth a ton of pessimism.
This Week’s Ponder
You can’t do life alone. It’s always better together.
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Until next week,
Sam Femi, Founder, Seamless Life Africa