Your Mental Health
Issue #54 - you might need a therapist
Hi Seamless Life Triber,
Here are 3 seamless life pillars for this week: 1 letter for you, 1 thing to ponder, and 1 offer to consider.
This Week’s Letter
‘Black don’t crack.’
‘Our family don’t see Therapists’
‘My child is fine’
‘I just need some time’
I am no Mental Health Expert.
Yet, I believe we all need a mental check at some point in life.
Just as Doctors also get treatments when they fall ill, therapists also see other therapists.
I am not here to advocate for a Therapist or try to sell a Therapy Session to you.
Even though I love the song ‘Therapy Session by NF’
As much as I am a loner and hardly mingle. I have someone I talk to.
We all need some form of therapy.
For others, they vlog their lives to let it out.
Others run a podcast, and we have streamers, too.
Most times, we wonder why we don’t see real change.
It’s because there is what we call a ‘coping mechanism’.
This coping mechanism is different from getting actual help.
You can’t also get actual help without first realising where you are struggling.
You need to understand what you need right now and the area you need help with.
For some, it’s parental issues, for others, trauma from past relationships.
Here are ways you can actually seek real help not just picking coping mechanisms.
For you wondering what a coping mechanism sounds like, here are a few: drinking, overworking, or numbing with social media.
You seek help by talking to a therapist, journaling honestly, or learning tools to regulate your nervous system.
Take the following steps below even if you feel you are good:
1. Self-Awareness
This is the first sacred moment.
You start to notice that something inside you feels misaligned. Maybe you’re always tired, or things you used to love don’t excite you anymore. Maybe you feel stuck, but can’t explain why.
You begin to whisper the truth to yourself: “Something’s not right here. I need help.”
That whisper? It’s where healing begins.
2. Name the Pain
You can’t heal what you won’t name.
It’s not enough to feel bad. You have to say what hurts. Is it anxiety that won’t let you sleep? A sadness you’ve carried for years? Anger you’ve pushed down too long?
When you give your pain a name, you strip it of confusion. You create space for clarity.
3. Choose Vulnerability
This is where most people stop.
Because it’s hard to open up. It’s hard to say, “I don’t have it all together.” But that’s exactly what you need to do.
You need a safe space. A therapist. A spiritual guide. A wise friend. Someone who sees you, not just your mask. Real help begins when you let yourself be seen.
4. Take Aligned Action
You can’t think your way into healing.
You have to move. You have to act. And no, it doesn’t have to be big.
Book that therapy session. Start journaling every morning. Join that circle of support. Read that book someone recommended but you’ve avoided.
Don’t wait until you feel ready. You won’t always feel ready. But movement changes things. Even if it’s slow. Even if it’s small.
5. Commit to the Process
This isn’t a one-time thing.
Healing takes time. And the truth is, some days will feel like setbacks. That’s okay. Healing isn’t linear. What matters is that you return. You return to truth. You return to what serves you. You return to yourself.
This Week’s Ponder
Coping mechanism is different from getting actual help.
This Week’s Offer
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Sam Femi, Founder, Seamless Life Africa
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